Dr. Monica Fung
Clinical Psychological Services (Hong Kong)
Family Problem
Family can be viewed as a system. Family members seek the attention, approval, and support from others while reacting to the needs, expectations, and distresses of others. People in the family system are highly connected and interdependent in their thoughts, feelings, and actions. As a result, when a family member becomes anxious, the emotion can spread to each other and intensify. Hence, the symptoms of an individual member is possibly a reflection of the unresolved intensified emotions in the family system.
Family counseling or therapy can help to identify the family dynamics, causes changes in the family system and enhance the functioning of the family and individual members.
Marital Problem
In a successful marriage, the couple supports the hopes and aspirations of each other and construct a sense of meaning in living together. There are signs when something went wrong in the marriage. It starts with criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling in the interactions. Either of the partners may feel being overwhelmed with the negativity of the other, resulting in stonewalling as a form of protection. The couple, or at least one party, feel severe emotional distresses and accompanies with strong bodily sensations. Attempts are made to repair the relationship but in vain. Going further down the path, the good memories are distilled leaving only the bad memories of the marriage. At this point of time, the marriage is close to an end as the minds of both parties are unable to communicate and reparation is almost impossible.
Marital counseling may help to improve the marital interactions for willing people.
Parenting
When a child acting out all the time, it is easy to believe that he or she is the only one who behaves in those ways. The parents may question if there are ways to cope with their children without spoiling them. The situation is especially challenging with adolescents, children with SEN or mood problems.
Parenting consultations may help to improve the communication and relationship with your children, coping of the parents and children in their daily lives.